I thought this week I'd cover the tricky issue of the all important speech!
Ok so if you are anything like me this was one of the biggest worries on the day- as a former Butlins Redcoat and Professional Entertainer it was not so much the standing up in front of everyone that had me worried but rather the fact that it was looming over what was already an emotionally draining day. I’ve put together a few points that I think will certainly help future grooms with their speeches, there is always a certain amount of expectation so I wanted to help out where I could!
- For starters don’t try to be too funny, unless of course you are a professional comedian, in which case it is expected so go nuts. There is nothing, and I mean nothing worse than a speech packed full of Google search jokes which are then badly read and land on deaf ears. Terrible, don’t do it. If you get the sense your best man will be doing any of the above, clip him round the ear.
- Thank everyone for coming- even though you are paying for them to get drunk and fed they do need to be recognised! People may have travelled a long way so it is nice to give them a mention.
- Thank your new in-laws. Careful here, you don’t want to get off on the wrong foot! Mention some happy events that they have been a part of and be respectful, for after all you are looking after their daughter for the rest of your life so emotions will be high.
- Thank the bridesmaids, comment on how beautiful they look but keep it clean!
- Speak about your family, the support they have given you and maybe remember those who could not be with you on the day. This also may be the last opportunity for you to get a dig at your best man before he humiliates you in front of the whole congregation .
- Don’t forget the toasts- if you want to thank someone, finish it with “raise your glasses, to * and *”
- Nerves and emotions can and probably will get the better of you, this isn’t a bad thing! In fact if you are nervous, you can even mention it- a lot of people have never done any form of public speaking let alone been given a live mic. If you err on the humble side you’ll win their sympathy.
- THE BIG ONE- speaking about your bride. Try to add in funny times, sad times and just generally special moments which you have shared. How you got together is always a good one to talk about. Finish it off, no matter how funny or soppy, with a heartfelt message so your bride knows you are sincere!
- Personally, I think it is better if you are not reading it word for word off a piece of paper. By all means have the notes as you’ll be surprised how much you forget on the day but don’t make it look like you have just received it for the first time.
- Don’t forgot to hand out flowers or presents to those who have helped out or who have been integral to the wedding ie mothers, bridesmaids, special people who helped with the organisation etc. If you think this will ruin the flow of your speech you can always do what I did and give them out beforehand and just mention it during.
Simple right?! Well a grooms speech is meant to last for more than 10 minutes and believe me talking for that long will take planning! No one will judge you for having it shorter- remember when it is done, the party can start!!!